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Highlights of the Episode:
The two things that I found out to improve my confidence are:
1-Education followed by action leads to direct self-Confidence.
I discovered that the more that I educated myself, the more that I knew my real self-worth. Because without exaggeration, each time I learned something new, new doors and potential opportunities opened up for me. Now, these opportunities are still ‘’potential’’ as long as I did not act on them and used what I learned to transform them into real opportunities. And you know what? I also found that the bigger and ‘’bolder’’ the action that I took, the more confident I became.
They used to say ‘’Knowledge is power’’, but I will tell you ‘’Knowledge is just potential power or frozen power. Knowledge followed by action is the real power’’.
I remember when I was a kid, I used to hear a simple but profound sentence that I never really understood; this sentence was ‘’Do what you fear’’. When I grew up, and I tried this advice, I started to understand and believe that you have to do what you fear. Because what you fear gets you outside of your comfort zone. Fear itself is a positive indication for you that you are growing.
When you start something new or take new action in your life, you will always be afraid of the unknown and the future, and you will have this inner self-talk and thoughts like: ‘’Is this action going to work? What are the people going to say about me? What if I failed?’’. But the truth is, you are just illusioned. Illusioned with a lot of things and thoughts that do not matter and are just delaying you from taking the next action.
If you simply understood the fact that in either way- if the action was successful or not- you are still a winner, you will act faster. Because simply, if the action that you took was right and you succeeded, then this will boost your confidence because you tried something new, it worked, and you survived the negative pool of thoughts that you had in your head to stop you from doing it.
And if the action was not correct, then it will be a lesson learned for the future. It will make you gain experience which will serve you later in your life, and you can still be proud of yourself because you did not surrender to the status quo and your negative thoughts.
Trust me; it does not take any effort from you to do nothing.
And by the way, there is another benefit from taking bold actions that almost everyone is ignoring to consider. And that is: It will set you free. The moment that you start getting the momentum of making decisions and neglecting the negative thoughts and negative people around you, the moment that it will be easier for you to repeat it again and again in the future. (An exclusion, of course, is in case you made a huge tangible loss from your previous action, then maybe it will take you some more time to recover which is normal).
Let me tell you a personal story. When I was 22 years old, I started my own business, and everybody was almost against this step. I had a great start, and the company was expanding but suddenly I failed, and I had to close the business. I felt that the world is over, everything is black and that my life will end and all these negative inner self-thoughts and illusions that you know.
But days passed by and I discovered that I am still alive. On top of that, after several years, I was able to connect the dots and to learn that the experience that I gained at this young age served me well in my life today. It empowered me to make tough decisions, and it gave me also Business knowledge and lessons learned from my mistakes in the past.
I also discovered that worrying about other people’s opinions about me is meaningless. Majority of people did not care, and the minority who spoke or criticized spoke for some time, and then they returned to their normal lives….Do you want to know why? Because they simply do not care. People around us have their own lives, and they will not leave their lives and priorities to focus or think about me or you as you imagine.
2- If you are not confident, act confident.
Ever heard a movie actor speaking that it took him several days or even weeks to let go of the character that he played in his last movie? This is because when you keep doing something for enough period, you become it or in other words you embody it. When you embody it the people around you will feel it. When they feel it, they will make you feel it also by speaking to others about you or by asking you why and how do you feel shiny or so confident. And the more that you will hear it from them the more that you will feel confident because you will believe it more and more until your sub-conscious mind absorbs it fully and believes it as a reality.
Use the power of what you listen to in your environment to your favor and not against you. And if you underestimate this point, let us make a small test together and let me ask you: ‘’If the people around you spoke negatively about you or said that you couldn’t do something, how would you feel? Would it impact you negatively or not?’’. The same impact on your confidence will happen if you started listening to positive things being said about you because simply we are human beings.
But this not everything, because when your confidence grows, your circle of influence will grow too. Why? Because simply: Do you prefer to be around someone who is confident or someone who is not confident or depressed?.
Same for the others. The more that you will reflect confidence, the more that you will influence people positively. And the more that you will influence people positively the more that they will follow you and stay with you, which will lead you, in the end, to be more confident and the loop continues…..
So start learning something new today and put what you learn into action. An action that can make you start changing your life. And after taking this action act confident and keep positive.
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