At each New Year’s Eve, I have a tradition. I write my new year’s resolution and make a decision that I will work hard on achieving those New Year’s targets starting from the first day of the year. And in fact, I start the New Year in a very promising way, and then weeks later my motivation slowly fades away until it disappears.
Have you ever dreamed of achieving big goals and wrote a New Year resolution? And if yes, at the end of the year, how much of this resolution did you achieve?
Most people start a New Year extremely motivated, setting lots of targets to achieve in this New Year and they plan to work hard to achieve them. A few weeks later, motivation falls down and people forget about the resolution and yearly targets, and they remember them once again only at the end of the year when they are preparing to create their new resolution for the next year. And the loop continues.
I used to be like most people. If I achieved 50% of my yearly resolution then I would celebrate the victory. But one day I asked myself: ‘’Why I am not capable of achieving 80 or 90% or even 100% of my yearly resolution? And what can I do in order to achieve 90% or even 100%?’’
A few years later, I discovered that I mainly did two mistakes.
The first mistake was that I never used to put my New Year resolution paper in a visible place in front of my eyes. I used to write my goals on a paper or in a copybook, then put it on the shelf or in a locker or something, and from time to time I used to check them. And this was a big mistake that I was doing. What I learned from this mistake is that I have to keep my targets written in a visible place so that I am capable of seeing them in front of my eyes each day along the year, in order to remind myself of my direction and what I am aiming to achieve. Writing your yearly resolution and then keeping it in a hidden place is like holding a compass in your hands to show you your way, while the compass contains no ‘’N’’ letter to show you the north direction.
When you put your targets on a visible place in front of you, this will make it easier for you to remember them in the middle of your daily busy routine and will help you to break them down so that you can achieve some small steps towards achieving those targets each day. And when you reach the end of the year, you will find that all the small steps that you made daily, when compounded together, took you already to the place where you wanted to be, and you will find most of your targets achieved without the usual ‘’last minute’’ stress.
The second Mistake that I did was surrounding myself with the wrong people. To demonstrate how important it is to surround yourself with people who have big similar goals and similar life purposes, famous business writer Jim Rohn once said: ‘’You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with’’.
Have you ever been sitting with someone speaking, then after the conversation is finished you felt a lot of energy inside of you and felt extremely motivated that you can do anything? In contrast, have you ever felt the other way around?
The wrong people here does not mean bad people, it just meant that they have different life purposes or different targets than me. To explain it in Jim Rohn’s words, the majority of the people that I used to spend my time with, were not sharing the same vision, life purpose or even the same target as me. Spending the time with them for the purpose of having fun was great, but with no real added value. Plus that after leaving them I used to find myself exhausted and unable to pursue my personal targets because I used to feel tired, as well as that the day was already over and all that I am left to do is to prepare myself for the next working day.
Days passed by and the same scenario is repeating itself, and each day I did not take action towards my goal I used to feel more demotivated and blamed myself more. And the funny thing is that, in the end, I used to blame the luck and ask myself ‘’Why is this happening? Why did I suddenly felt demotivated and incapable of doing what I planned to do, or how can I find more time during the day to accomplish all that I want?’’.
Setting the right goals is not enough, but the methodology that we use along the way to achieve them is what’s really important. Because at the end of the year it makes a huge difference in our lives when we discover that we achieved the majority of what we were planning to achieve.
When you achieve your goals, this will not only inspire you to achieve more, it will also help you develop yourself faster and better. Imagine with me this situation, you are sitting at the end of the year, trying to evaluate your performance for the last year, to discover that you achieved almost all your targets. How will this impact you? And how this will affect your mood or influence your personality? And when your personality is improved, how will this improve your relationship with the people around you? And how would it feel when you find yourself setting completely new targets for yourself and not just copying over some older targets from the targets that you did not achieve last year? As you can see, everything is linked and dependent on the other like a domino effect.
Respectively, when you develop yourself you will be more attractive to the people around you, and you yourself will be one of the five people surrounding another person so you will improve his or her average (remember Jim Rohn’s quote?). On top of this, you will also attract people who are having similar targets like yours and they will be eager to learn from you, and you will inspire them to achieve what they always dreamed of achieving because simply you will prove them that everything is possible and that if you can do it then they can do it also.
Marianne Williamson the author summarized it once by saying: ‘’and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we’re liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
So now, and as we are already in the second half of the year, how much did you achieve already from your yearly targets?